Since I can remember, I always wanted multiple children. Having one never seemed enough. My daughter is 18 months old. Lately, I've been asking myself [and my husband], "When should we have another baby?" Both of us are stumped. We want more kids, but when is the "right time?" I know, I know, there's no such thing.
I want to be pregnant, but I haven't lost all the baby weight from last time. I want my daughter to have a sibling, but I don't want her to think I love her less. I want another newborn, but I don't want to be sleep deprived. I want another child, but we haven't bought a house yet. If we wait too long, they'll be too far apart in age. If we get pregnant now, they may be too close in age--It's an ongoing battle in my head.
Then I question everything, as a mother does: Is my body physically ready to give birth again? Is my mental state ready for the anxiety that you feel during pregnancy? Am I emotionally ready to give my heart to another little human? Do I even have anymore love to give? What if this time something goes wrong? Or what if I can't handle two kids at once?
I think when my head and my heart are on the same page, I'll know what to do. For now, I'm going to love on my little girl while she is my only little girl.
-Kristin, owner + creator of Free the Mother
When did YOU know it was the right time to have another baby? Let me know in the comments.
4 comments
Jaclyn
My first was 18mo when I got pregnant again. Our 2nd baby was not at all planned! We struggled with infertility for 4 years before I got pregnant with our first so I was adamant about not getting on birth control and letting my body do it’s thing. I got my PP period back when she was 15mo and thought it would take awhile to get pregnant again so I tracked my cycles and we abstained during my fertile days. (We wanted to wait until our first was 2 years old.) We had ONE oopsie and I turn up pregnant! We were shocked and I’ll have to admit I was kinda upset. I was just starting to get my body back to myself as just having night weaned and baby was sleeping through the night. I was bummed I wouldn’t be able to hang with our friends and enjoy the summer with drinks. We also had a Cali trio planned for our anni and I told hubs I wanted to take shots and get cray on our first date night there lol! At the end of the day we are never ready and there is never a perfect time. It happened at the right time and it was the most beautiful pregnancy and birth. My first was a traumatic cesarean and my 2nd was an extremely healing unmedicated VBAC. My 2nd baby was exactly what I needed and we are all thriving as a family of 4! It’s so incredible to feel this much love for both of my girls and they love each other so much.
My first was 18mo when I got pregnant again. Our 2nd baby was not at all planned! We struggled with infertility for 4 years before I got pregnant with our first so I was adamant about not getting on birth control and letting my body do it’s thing. I got my PP period back when she was 15mo and thought it would take awhile to get pregnant again so I tracked my cycles and we abstained during my fertile days. (We wanted to wait until our first was 2 years old.) We had ONE oopsie and I turn up pregnant! We were shocked and I’ll have to admit I was kinda upset. I was just starting to get my body back to myself as just having night weaned and baby was sleeping through the night. I was bummed I wouldn’t be able to hang with our friends and enjoy the summer with drinks. We also had a Cali trio planned for our anni and I told hubs I wanted to take shots and get cray on our first date night there lol! At the end of the day we are never ready and there is never a perfect time. It happened at the right time and it was the most beautiful pregnancy and birth. My first was a traumatic cesarean and my 2nd was an extremely healing unmedicated VBAC. My 2nd baby was exactly what I needed and we are all thriving as a family of 4! It’s so incredible to feel this much love for both of my girls and they love each other so much.
Liv
As was pointed out to me by a Dr. , if you wait for the right time it will never seem perfect, sometimes you just have to make a leap. Plus these things can take time too.
As was pointed out to me by a Dr. , if you wait for the right time it will never seem perfect, sometimes you just have to make a leap. Plus these things can take time too.
Amandasaurasrex
My son is 17 months and I’m 3 months pregnant with a baby girl! But she wasn’t at all planned.. Was my body ready? Probably not! Lol I’m 29 and was well on my way on still loosing weight from the first go around. I was a tad worried on how I’d be able to give my son enough attention, going into his second year.. But I’m making peace with the whole idea. Will I be ready to not get any sleep for a good 4 months? No.. and I’m definitely not ready to have sore boobs again. But everything should fall into place, in time. I mean, Everything happens for a reason
My son is 17 months and I’m 3 months pregnant with a baby girl! But she wasn’t at all planned.. Was my body ready? Probably not! Lol I’m 29 and was well on my way on still loosing weight from the first go around. I was a tad worried on how I’d be able to give my son enough attention, going into his second year.. But I’m making peace with the whole idea. Will I be ready to not get any sleep for a good 4 months? No.. and I’m definitely not ready to have sore boobs again. But everything should fall into place, in time. I mean, Everything happens for a reason
Amandasaurasrex
My son is 17 months and I’m 3 months pregnant with a baby girl! But she wasn’t at all planned.. Was my body ready? Probably not! Lol I’m 29 and was well on my way on still loosing weight from the first go around. I was a tad worried on how I’d be able to give my son enough attention, going into his second year.. But I’m making peace with the whole idea. Will I be ready to not get any sleep for a good 4 months? No.. and I’m definitely not ready to have sore boobs again. But everything should fall into place, in time. I mean, Everything happens for a reason
My son is 17 months and I’m 3 months pregnant with a baby girl! But she wasn’t at all planned.. Was my body ready? Probably not! Lol I’m 29 and was well on my way on still loosing weight from the first go around. I was a tad worried on how I’d be able to give my son enough attention, going into his second year.. But I’m making peace with the whole idea. Will I be ready to not get any sleep for a good 4 months? No.. and I’m definitely not ready to have sore boobs again. But everything should fall into place, in time. I mean, Everything happens for a reason